Thursday, July 17, 2014

My relationship is over

Today would have been our 2 month anniversary, but he ended our relationship. It was a good, but tough 2 months.

On Wednesday I asked him "Do you know what tomorrow is?" He just replied back with a question mark. Then I told him it would be our 2 month anniversary. I guess he doesn't keep up with that kind of stuff. (most men don't anyway). He didn't really acknowledge our 1 month anniversary when I reminded him of it in June. There was no special plan or even a 'happy anniversary' from him.

Anyway around midnight I posted a status that it was my 2 month anniversary. A little while later I got a message from him through Facebook messenger. He said he just wanted to be friends. He is too busy and our relationship is complicated. He said he still wants to talk and hangout.

It just wasn't meant to be. It was a unique, but complicated relationship. The language barrier was a problem for him, but it didn't bother me.

So now its over. Time to move on. It was always hard for me because he never had any time. I had a boyfriend, but I was always lonely. I never understood how every single minute of his day was planned out and he couldn't make any time to see me. In the whole month of June we only saw each other for one hour. In 2 months we only saw each other a total of 5 times.

I'm not angry and we ended on good terms. I don't have anything bad to say about him.

Now I'm a single woman. I changed my status back to single and deleted pictures of us right after he broke it off. I also reactivated my POF profile. I never had any luck on POF, but at least I can try. 

He was a nice guy, but I need someone who wants to spend time with me. I believe that if someone really wants to see you they will make time. Sometimes you have to make a sacrifice.

I probably won't actively seek out a new relationship, but if it happens, it happens. Its hard when I know I'm leaving in 10 months (possibly less). I would like to have a boyfriend, but I don't want to get too serious and then leave. I think they would have to know that the relationship will eventually end. or they have to move to the USA. I'm not moving here.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

*Music Video: Ailee, 2lson "I'm In Love" (English Subtitles)

I really like this video! Its cool to see all the families and people helping others. The song has such a good message.


Music Video: God "The Story of Our Lives"

Featuring Megan Lee

I like this video. The song has a good sound and the video has a touching message.


Saturday, July 12, 2014

Completed 8 weeks....

Ive been here 8 weeks so far.

Early yesterday morning I got to do Facetime with my 2 year old nephew. I miss him! I sent him some toys so I wanted to watch him open them. He liked the toys. I sent him a die cast police tow truck set and a wind up Tayo bus set. (Tayo is a popular cartoon here). I also sent him a rubber ducky that will swim when you pull its tail. He likes the tow truck, but he kept talking about how much he wanted the ambulance set. There was a picture of the ambulance set on the box. Now I need to look for it! We ended up talking for 2 hours! It was mostly me watching him playing with his toys. I also got to see my new niece on camera. She is only 2 weeks old.

Last night I met someone from the Tinder app. I've been on Tinder for a few months, but most of my matches fizzle out very quickly before we even meet. I was upfront with him that I was only looking for friends. I just want to meet various people to hangout with. I will only hangout in public. None of them will ever see my apartment. He is on Tinder looking for friends and a girlfriend. I let him know that I am not looking for a boyfriend. We met at the subway station after work. We were going to get dinner, but he had to get back on the train about 30 minutes after we met. I don't know why he would want to meet at 10:30pm if he knew he had to be back on the 11PM train so he could get back home before the trains stop running. So we just went to Baskin Robbins for some ice cream. I was going to buy mine, but he bought it for me. He is 28 years old and speaks English pretty well. (He is Korean).

Last week was a turning point for me. I was to the point where I almost put in my 2 month notice to leave. A few classes were bothering me and I had enough. I went to talk to my boss with my notice in hand. She gave me a solution and I walked back out with my notice. I was having a tough time with making my own lessons for cooking class and art class. She said I don't have to teach those classes anymore. She asked me why I didn't talk to her first. I didn't think that I had a choice in what classes I would be teaching. In the place of cooking I will be teaching reading and in the place of art I will be teaching writing. I think its better for me.

I'm going to try my best to stick it out for my one year contract. This is my last year teaching. I have finally come to the conclusion that teaching is a poor career choice for me. I will not be coming back again.

I also had a turning point in my relationship. I almost ended it (when I considered putting in my notice). I asked my boyfriend how he felt about the relationship. He said he loves me, but he can't speak English. So he is studying English so he can talk to me. I know he's self conscious about his English skills, but that doesn't matter to me. (I appreciate that he is making an effort. He pays to go to school to learn English) I like him as a person. So I decided to stick it out and see what can happen in our relationship. Its really tough that I never get to see him. He told me he was sorry that he didn't have much time to see me. Last week I asked my boyfriend what would happen to us if I left (this was before I talked to my boss). He seemed upset that I was leaving. His reaction made me think about trying to stick with it. If he would have acted like he didn't care if I left then I probably would have ended it right there. Then later I told him that I wasn't leaving, but that previously I was thinking about it earlier in the day. I wonder how long we will last and what will happen when I decide to leave in May. Will we get married or just end it? Next Thursday, the 17th, will be our 2 month anniversary.

I still have my good days and bad days at school, but for now I'm toughing it out. My worst class of young boys is getting better. The only way I can get them to do any work is to constantly give them rewards. We have this program where we give the students fake money for rewards and they can turn it in for snacks. I usually only give out a small amount of "money" each class to the students, but this class is so bad that I have to reward them for every page they complete. Then they sit there and count the money all during class. Its so frustrating at times. I'm glad I only have them twice a week. I don't think I could take anymore.

My middle school classes are frustrating because the majority of students are always late. There are a few people who show up on time. The students trickle in one by one at various times. I have some students who show up 20 minutes or more after class starts. Class is only 45 minutes long. This makes it hard because I have to stop and let them know where we are in the book. Then they don't really want to study. I ask them to write a summary and they only want to write 2-3 sentences.

One of my speaking classes is a good class. I prepare a lot for that class because they do a good job on the material. I'm glad I have the teacher's guide because it has some helpful information on how to prepare the lesson. There is so much material that sometimes we spend 2-3 classes on one page!

Another class started out good at first, but now they are having worse behavior. Some of the students always want to leave the room to get water or go to the bathroom. I tell them to go before class, but they act like they don't understand. Then getting the whole class to be on the same page is hard some time. They always want to be on different pages or not paying attention. On Wednesday I got angry because one of the students hid my erasers. I kept asking them "where are the erasers?". Then finally one of the boys got them out from behind a box.

There are other classes that I really enjoy. One of my lower level phonics class is really good. I'm starting to see improvement in one of the students who was a little slower. He did a really good job the other day and he usually struggles. That class is my favorite. The kids are younger and they are well behaved. We always end early and play a game. They line up in a straight line for the game and stay pretty quiet.

One of my reading classes frustrates me sometimes. There is one girl who is always lazy. She forgets her book most of the time. Then she doesn't want to look for the answers herself so she copies off of others.

One of my private students is a really good student. She is usually in my middle school reading class, but I'm working with her one on one because she will be attending an English school in China. They only speak English at the school. Right now I'm helping her with spelling. I also help her with building sentences. Some times she has trouble making sentences so I give her some example sentences. Sometimes we laugh at the crazy sentences she makes. We also laugh when I have a hard time trying to describe the meaning of a word.

The other foreign teacher is leaving in about 10 days. I think his replacement will be showing up around the 20th. Then there will be all women teachers in the school. I will be the most senior foreign teacher with only 2 months of experience at the school. So basically its like having 2 new teachers. Don't lean on me for much advice because I'm still fresh off the boat!

8 weeks down.....42 more to go....

3 weeks till vacation!!

Music Video: Kim Hyun Joong "Beauty Beauty"

I like this video. I like the special effects with the words on the screen. Its a cute video. I also liked the part at the end where they show some of how the music video was made. The song also has a good beat and catchy lyrics.


Monday, July 7, 2014

Finally got to see my boyfriend!

On Saturday night I had a date with my boyfriend. I hadn't seen him in a month! He's always busy so I don't get to see him often. Its really tough, but I'm hanging in there. Sometimes I get frustrated because I don't get to see him very often. There are a lot of times where I think about ending the relationship, but I'm not ready for that.

My friends and family are worried about me because he doesn't have time for me. Maybe I'm too trusting of him. Everyone else worries that he has someone else on the side.

On Friday I asked him what he thought about our relationship. We've been dating for 7 weeks now. He told me he does love me, but its hard for him to express himself because he doesn't speak English. He is making an effort to learn English so he can better communicate.

He told me on our date that he studies English for 2 hours a day during the week and 1 hour a day on the weekends. He has an English tutor at an English academy. His goal is to have perfect English skills. He has a long way to go, but I know he is trying. (I need to start working on my Korean!!)

Our relationship is very unique. I never thought that I'd find my mate in another part of the world. I don't speak much Korean and he doesn't speak much English. He's Korean and I'm American. We use an app called Line to talk to each other everyday. We just type messages to each other during the day. Some days we will only say good morning and good night. Other days we will have a little longer conversation. As time passes we need to have more serious conversations. The app has a Korean to English/English to Korean translating feature that we use. I mostly type in English and he mostly types in Korean.

I think he is a sweet, kind person. He always treats me good when we are out together. He pays for dates and always takes me home. I enjoy spending time with him. He's very concerned with whether I am eating. He always asks me if I have had a meal. (You can tell by my appearance that I haven't skipped many meals in my life. haha) I sometimes wonder why such a small, fit guy would date a big girl like me. But I'm glad he sees more than my appearance.

On our date I got to experience something new. He took me to a Chinese restaurant and we ate lamb. I had never tried lamb before, but it was very delicious. We cooked the lamb at our table over charcoals. The lamb was on skewers and you hold it there and keep turning it to brown it. We had 20 of the skewers in all. 10 that were white and 10 that were red. I don't know what the difference was, but they were both good. We also had some nangmyeon. It was also my first time eating nangmyeon. Nangmyeon is a cold noodle dish. The noodles are thin and brown and made from buckwheat, potatoes and sweet potatoes. It was good.




Afterwards we went for a walk and he practiced some English with me. He used a translating app and I would help him make it more natural or the correct pronunciation. Then he took me to Baskin Robbins for ice cream.

He usually takes me home after our dates, but his car was in the shop so he walked into the subway station with me to see me off. I wish our date could have been longer, but the subway trains don't go all night in Seoul.

When will I see him again?

Semiwon 세미원 (Botanical Garden) (Yongdam-ri, Gyeonggi-do, South Korea)

I am always having a lot of adventures in Korea. Things don't always go as planned.

One day I was on Facebook and I saw a post about a place called "Semiwon". It looked like a beautiful place so I decided to check it out.

There were 3 sets of directions on the tourism website so I just chose the first one. I had no clue that it was so far away! The first direction said to take the metro to Cheongnyangni Station and take bus 167. I made to Cheongyangni station in 54 minutes from Goyang City. Then I found bus 167. When I got on the bus I kept looking at the bus map. I was trying to figure out if I was going in the right direction. I saw my stop up at the top of the route, but it took me a while to find what stop we were on. (The map was only in Korean. The voice that tells the current stop and next stop was only in Korean. I can read Hanguel, but its hard to find the stop by just listening)That bus started at Cheongyangni station and my stop was the next to last stop. So I started searching on my smartphone. At one point I found out I had 60 stops left and that I would be on the bus for about an hour and 30 minutes. I saw that I could get there faster by taking the subway so I got off the bus at a subway stop. There were only a few stops to reach my destination, but I had to wait about 15 minutes or so to get on the subway. Some lines outside of the Seoul metro area don't leave as often.

Once I reached Yangsu station it was about a 10-15 minute walk. There was a long line for tickets, but the line went pretty fast. There were a lot of families there. I didn't notice any other foreigners.

It was a nice sunny day, but very hot! I think it was about 87 degrees, but it was so humid.

Semiwon is a beautiful place. There are tons of Lotus flowers. I hadn't seen any in person before so I didn't know they were so big. The Lotus flowers just started blooming around the end of July so I got to see a lot that had bloomed and some that hadn't bloomed yet. I got some great shots. I also made a video with my ipad mini.

After I got finished I didn't know which way to get out! I just started walking and reached a corner in a pretty busy area. I just stood there for a while trying to find a taxi. I saw 2 taxis go by so I stuck out my hand and they just kept going. Then this one taxi was across the street calling out to me. Then I had to find a way to cross the street. There was a lot of traffic. There was a crosswalk, but no crosswalk signal. You just have to run when you find the chance! (The taxi stand was across the street, but I didn't know!) I got him to take me to the station. I didn't know I was so close. He took 2 turns and we were there. It wasn't even enough distance to make the meter go up from the initial fare.

Then I used the subway app to find out how long it would take to get home. I had a long ride! It would take me about 2 hours to get home. I had to transfer twice. I was so tired from walking around all day! There were a lot of people on the subway so I had to stand for most of my journey.

Its a long journey, but it was worth it!




Photos: https://plus.google.com/photos/106518880659515557565/albums/6032618591018631825



Admission: 4000 won

Hours: (March-October) 09:00~18:00
(November-February) 09:00~17:00
Admission is allowed until 30 minutes before closing.

Lotus Flowers start blooming in late June, mature in July and stay till around Mid-August. I recommend going while the Lotus flowers are in bloom. I went the first weekend in July. Its so beautiful.

Closed: Mondays

Directions: Cheongnyangni Station (Seoul Subway Line 1 or Jungang Line), Exit 4.
Take Bus 167 and get off at Yangsu-ri Bus Stop. (The bus ride will be close to 2 hours!)

Gangbyeon Station (Seoul Subway Line 2), Exit 4.
Take Bus 2000-1 and get off at Yangseo Culture & Sports Park.

Yangsu Station (Seoul Subway Jungang Line), Exit 1.
Walk for about 15min to arrive at Semiwon.